When times are tough and you find yourself forsaken, take courage. Stay on your course. Standing still or taking a less-than-desirable path is not acceptable. Stay on your course. Be firm with your decision. It is your life, not theirs.
The road to success is not paved with beautiful flowers. On many occasions, you have to crawl and progress is short, like a few inches at a time. Still, push forward. And by deciding to continue, you'll find yourself there, at your target destination. Little by little. Step by step.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Monday, February 27, 2012
Minding My Own Business
It has been common that in order to be at our best, we should be relaxed both our minds and bodies. Yet, I find that I tend to lose this feeling of relaxation every time I hear of criticisms or someone saying negative about me.
So to maintain this feeling, I have decided to follow the advice of minding my own business. Sure, we can learn from criticisms and negative feedback, but getting hang-up by meditating on them would be counter-productive. You might even be worse off than what you were originally criticized for. Thus, it is only proper that I knowing myself should push through with what should be done based on my values.
P.S. I'm writing not in an essay format. That's what blogs were originally intended for. Web logs. Logs of our thoughts. I have chosen to write this way to exercise my "writing muscles." Eventually, I may regain the knack for writing for long posts, and I hope to do it this time regularly than once in a while.
So to maintain this feeling, I have decided to follow the advice of minding my own business. Sure, we can learn from criticisms and negative feedback, but getting hang-up by meditating on them would be counter-productive. You might even be worse off than what you were originally criticized for. Thus, it is only proper that I knowing myself should push through with what should be done based on my values.
P.S. I'm writing not in an essay format. That's what blogs were originally intended for. Web logs. Logs of our thoughts. I have chosen to write this way to exercise my "writing muscles." Eventually, I may regain the knack for writing for long posts, and I hope to do it this time regularly than once in a while.
6 Foundations
I read last night Chapter 3 of Don't Read This - Your Ego Won't Like It
the title of which is The Six Foundations of Full Spectrum Abundance.
The six foundations are
1. Physical Foundation
2. Financial Foundation
3. Relational Foundation
4. Intellectual Foundation
5. Spiritual Foundation
6. Foundation of Wisdom
I used to consider the Game of Life as consisting of looking for the balance on the success in the areas of finances, romance, and health.
With this new insight, I gained a much more complete picture.
the title of which is The Six Foundations of Full Spectrum Abundance.
The six foundations are
1. Physical Foundation
2. Financial Foundation
3. Relational Foundation
4. Intellectual Foundation
5. Spiritual Foundation
6. Foundation of Wisdom
I used to consider the Game of Life as consisting of looking for the balance on the success in the areas of finances, romance, and health.
With this new insight, I gained a much more complete picture.
Monday, February 20, 2012
Waking Up
Eben as citing Anthony Mello said that we are all asleep and we need to wake up. Now, I understand. Until this weekend when I finally uncovered what has been driving me these past several years and what has kept me from reaching my potential, I was always doomed to failure.
Strange. With this new realization, when I finally woke up, I gained inner peace, aka peace of mind. I really feel serene that I can do anything without much effort. This was what I have been looking for, but I was unconscious that this is what I've needed all along.
Nevertheless, with peace of mind, I am ready to face the consequences of what I did when I lacked it. Also, I am now energized to accept, take responsibility for, and to develop the gifts and resources I gathered during those years of frustration.
Strange. With this new realization, when I finally woke up, I gained inner peace, aka peace of mind. I really feel serene that I can do anything without much effort. This was what I have been looking for, but I was unconscious that this is what I've needed all along.
Nevertheless, with peace of mind, I am ready to face the consequences of what I did when I lacked it. Also, I am now energized to accept, take responsibility for, and to develop the gifts and resources I gathered during those years of frustration.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
My Battle with a Dragon
The name of this dragon is Embitterment.
I have realized thanks to my present crisis that much of my failures at every endeavor is due to not confronting this monster. I repressed it deeply from my consciousness so that by default people found me despicable.
Using techniques such as timeline therapy, emotional release technique, reframing etc. I found myself experiencing greater peace, although my transformation is not complete. There are several battles that I must wage. Every deep seated personal issue must be made conscious so that defense mechanisms can be exposed.
It is scary. Last night, a lot of repressed energy from resentment was released. I felt my heart palpitating. If I did not relax and calm down, there was a small chance that I could have died. SCARY indeed that I have been harboring this for so long. Yet, this morning, I woke up refreshed. I guest this is it. This is the break through that I had been looking for in order to make sense of my failures and the myths I created.
Now is the time to be true to myself and become radically honest.
I will kill this dragon.
I have realized thanks to my present crisis that much of my failures at every endeavor is due to not confronting this monster. I repressed it deeply from my consciousness so that by default people found me despicable.
Using techniques such as timeline therapy, emotional release technique, reframing etc. I found myself experiencing greater peace, although my transformation is not complete. There are several battles that I must wage. Every deep seated personal issue must be made conscious so that defense mechanisms can be exposed.
It is scary. Last night, a lot of repressed energy from resentment was released. I felt my heart palpitating. If I did not relax and calm down, there was a small chance that I could have died. SCARY indeed that I have been harboring this for so long. Yet, this morning, I woke up refreshed. I guest this is it. This is the break through that I had been looking for in order to make sense of my failures and the myths I created.
Now is the time to be true to myself and become radically honest.
I will kill this dragon.
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Breakthrough
I am having a break through experience. Much of what have held me back is starting to unravel. I see them now for what they are - defense and ego mechanisms. Much has been released last night before I went to sleep, although much work has to be done. Nevertheless, I woke up with an abundance of energy and inner peace. I feel like a different me, a transformed man, from the loser that pitied himself.
For now, I shall still project that part of me that is called a "scumbag" until I am satisfied with the transformation I can get with the tools from Maxwell Maltz, Tad James, Peter Shepherd, Wayne Dyer etc. While they pity me, I guest I have made the proper gamble to induce them to divulge what they really think and feel about me.
And with this awareness, genuine change can take place. So instead of being bitter this time, just like in December 15, 2007, I said thank you.
For now, I shall still project that part of me that is called a "scumbag" until I am satisfied with the transformation I can get with the tools from Maxwell Maltz, Tad James, Peter Shepherd, Wayne Dyer etc. While they pity me, I guest I have made the proper gamble to induce them to divulge what they really think and feel about me.
And with this awareness, genuine change can take place. So instead of being bitter this time, just like in December 15, 2007, I said thank you.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Change
"People don't like it when you change because the ways they used to manipulate you stop working." Wyatt Woodsmall
I really feel stressed right now that some people I thought I could confide with turned out to be my worst enemies. I know I am very far from perfect; I have made several lapses of judgments. But it is said, "There's no such thing as failure; only feedback." From failure, we learn what went wrong so we could correct ourselves in order to reach the original goal or something else. Yet, I could not believe that I would be subjected to gossip and backstabbing over a certain failure.
I am determined to rise from this even stronger. I feel the urgency to have my self-improvement programs bear fruit. After all, I am in a GAME called life.
Anyway, back to this calumny thrown at me. In the movie of my mind, I saw a montage of everyone who had maligned me in the past. These images I find are converging to these dudes. Every negative feeling are carried over.
What's ironic though is that even though I am embittered, I am trying to channel the negativity into taking positive action. I know that even if I take my revenge directly, say by punching and kicking them, no good thing will come out. I'll be even more bitter about life. The safest and most productive way of venting this anger is working hard to become the better version of myself than the one they found as the object of their contempt. This says a great stoic thinker [I can't remember if it's Marcus Aurelius or Epictetus] is the greatest form of revenge.
So going back to the quote by Wyatt, to change is inevitable. So I must be prepared that people will and do disapprove of the changes that are taking place.
I really feel stressed right now that some people I thought I could confide with turned out to be my worst enemies. I know I am very far from perfect; I have made several lapses of judgments. But it is said, "There's no such thing as failure; only feedback." From failure, we learn what went wrong so we could correct ourselves in order to reach the original goal or something else. Yet, I could not believe that I would be subjected to gossip and backstabbing over a certain failure.
I am determined to rise from this even stronger. I feel the urgency to have my self-improvement programs bear fruit. After all, I am in a GAME called life.
Anyway, back to this calumny thrown at me. In the movie of my mind, I saw a montage of everyone who had maligned me in the past. These images I find are converging to these dudes. Every negative feeling are carried over.
What's ironic though is that even though I am embittered, I am trying to channel the negativity into taking positive action. I know that even if I take my revenge directly, say by punching and kicking them, no good thing will come out. I'll be even more bitter about life. The safest and most productive way of venting this anger is working hard to become the better version of myself than the one they found as the object of their contempt. This says a great stoic thinker [I can't remember if it's Marcus Aurelius or Epictetus] is the greatest form of revenge.
So going back to the quote by Wyatt, to change is inevitable. So I must be prepared that people will and do disapprove of the changes that are taking place.
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